My note to Gwyneth and ALL women - whether you work or not
By now, you've probably seen the open letter written to Gwyneth Paltrow by a working mom in response to an answer Gwyneth gave when comparing her life to that of other working moms with "office" jobs.... If you missed it, click here to read all about it. But in a nutshell, Gwyneth says:
“I think it’s different when you have an office job, because it’s routine and, you know, you can do all the stuff in the morning and then you come home in the evening,” you said. “When you’re shooting a movie, they’re like, ‘We need you to go to Wisconsin for two weeks,’ and then you work 14 hours a day, and that part of it is very difficult. I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it’s not like being on set.”
While I appreciate the perspective given by this working mom in the open letter, we have begun to do what we hated to begin with....we hate being judged. We hate to be told that we have it "easy" when we are busting our butts every day to make it all happen. We are juggling, compromising, prioritizing, and in many cases even apologizing for it all.
Let's not fire back at Gwyneth for "being out of touch." Let's not judge one another and decide whose life is better or worse off. How about we CELEBRATE one another?!? "Good for you, Gwyneth, that you have found a way to be a celebrity actress and mom." And then maybe Gwyneth will say, "While I don't know what it's like to work in an office, I can imagine those working moms have their own obstacles and opportunities."
I can't stand when my friends who don't work say things to be like "well, I don't work and you do so I can run that errand for that school activity." What?!? Of course you work! You are the freakin' CEO of your HOUSE! You work so hard - probably harder than me....
So this is what I propose...
STOP the banter. STOP the cattiness. STOP comparing, and stop judging. Be grateful for what you have and even for what you don't have. And realize that your glass might be fuller than the person next to you - it just might not always seem that way.